The Five Archetypes
Relationship Report

Understand yourself and the person you’re in a relationship with. Get a set of words and actions you can start using today to bring integrity to the connection.

The epidemic of our time is our distorted relationship with our thoughts. Unexamined impulses break hearts.

What This Gives You

People invest a ton into self-discovery. What’s my purpose? Why do we suffer? How come I keep repeating the same patterns even after having done all the work?

And then, no matter how self-aware we are, when we get into work or love relationships, things can rapidly and painfully go sideways.

A menagerie of discomfort pops in. That self-knowledge we invested in buckles, bulges and groans. And forget about understanding other people and the choices they make.

Relationships are challenging because we aren’t taught how to deal with discomfort well. Nobody tells us that our perception of reality shrinks when we get stressed and that we usually believe those limiting thoughts are the full story. We were never given a roadmap for how to stay connected when relationships start to hurt.

This report is that roadmap, customized for each specific pair by your combined Five Archetypes questionnaire results. It gives you a clearer picture of yourself, the person you’re in a relationship with, and a set of words and actions you can start using today to tend, nourish, and protect the connection.

How Change Happens

There’s a living, interactive space between you and everyone you’re in relationship with. We call it the Relational Field. It receives and holds what you think, feel, and sense about yourself, others, and the situation at hand. It holds power, feels alive, and it can influence how you choose to behave.

When you feel insecure, you may believe the only way out of discomfort is if other people and circumstances changed. Newsflash: that’s not a reliable stress reduction strategy. What you can change are the thoughts and sensations you believe and bring to the Field. And when you do, the situation shifts rapidly for the better, for everyone in it.

Your Five Archetypes questionnaire results are a diagnostic and a solution all in one. They uncover how you relate to your limited perception of life’s tough experiences, what you need to do on a regular basis to remain resilient to those distorted perceptions, and how to regulate out of them when your guard is down and the going gets tough.

This information is a godsend for preventing personal and professional relationship fallout.

What's Inside the Report

The report helps you understand the pattern, see the risk of not changing it, and give you custom practices to preventing the distorted states altogether:

The Field and how relationships change
Why you do what you do
The Blame Loop
The Field Reset
Empathy in practice
Scripts for tough moments
What becomes possible
Reference section, so when you feel the Blame Loop starting, you can access scripts easily.

What Becomes Possible

Your default becomes: harmony that holds, even through hard conversations.

Success isn’t the absence of discomfort. It’s noticing sooner. Catching the distorted urge before acting on it. Preventing the Blame Loop from starting in the first place.

What’s possible is living in a relationship where things get done, people feel good about how they got there, and both of you feel irrevocably lighter for it.

The hardest moments in relationships can feel like obstacles. They’re not. They’re the doorway to conscious transformation, and now you’ll know how to walk through.

Who Delivers It?

Your session is with Carey, or a practitioner I’ve certified to hold the Field.

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